I get what you’re saying but imo attractive people in general have to deal with creeps, not just women. Trust me I’ve seen it 
, I wouldn’t say that’s gender specific.
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Agree with the automatic “totally-not-a-crush-ok-maybe-a-little-crush” on the male genderlocked coworker RO despite the player’s sexual preference, but the bits where MC getting hit-on/harassed by people and the freshen up/signature fragrance bit is definitely not gender specific. The thinking that men do not receive unwanted advances by creeps or that if they pay attention to their hygiene and want to smell nice means they are not or less masculine is very dated imo. I played as a male MC and he feels like a man just fine 
(and now I wanna date him 
)
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I get what you’re saying but imo attractive people in general have to deal with creeps, not just women.
but the bits where MC getting hit-on/harassed by people and the freshen up/signature fragrance bit is definitely not gender specific. The thinking that men do not receive unwanted advances by creeps or that if they pay attention to their hygiene and want to smell nice means they are not or less masculine is very dated imo
Which is precisely why I said that none of that neccesarily meant anything on their own.
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You were still kind of indicating that those things were geared towards a more feminine MC, all I was saying is that it isn’t really. Apologies if I misunderstood.
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Just to make you aware, Dashingdon hosting will be closing soon so I would recommend moving this to cogdemos or uploading a compiled html file:
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heyyyyyyyy
(copy and pasted from the deuxadeux-if tumblr)
hi omg. sorry i have been literally radio silent eeeerk. first and foremost thank all of you who messaged me to let me know about dashingdon shutting down. i haven’t logged in here in a hot minute, and it surprised me how many of you reached out. thank you :,)
bullet points on ray’s life:
- graduated college! i now have a bachelor’s degree.
- work is going fine! i am a full-time bartender. it’s fine, not a permanent fit for me probably but it’s okay for now.
- i miss writing, but i don’t have much time to commit to it. i haven’t written anything in two (maybe even three?) months. this is partially because i’m trying to take a break to do other creative things, and partly because i love writing full-time. i’m not sure how to move forward writing in spare moments—the thought of doing that makes me a little sad. as such, i am avoiding it for the moment. lol.
- my birthday is in a little less than 2 months. i will be 23! it is weird. i still feel like a teenager sometimes. sometimes even younger.
- since i’m not writing at the moment, i spend my free time drawing, reading, and listening to albums. i also go on walks in the woods with my boyfriend when we’re both off work.
now about dashingdon. i thought about it quite a bit for the past week or two, and i don’t think i will be returning to deux à deux for the foreseeable future. i haven’t deleted any of my files, so it’s all there if i want to return to it at any point—but i think it will be a while before i even consider picking it back up again. a few reasons for this:
- i need a much, much more concrete outline for the rest of the story, and as of right now, i don’t know what that would look like.
- i don’t have much free time, and i have very little money. it feels best for me, at least right now, to fill my spare minutes with hobbies that are private to keep my sanity intact lol.
- i want to spend 2025 thinking about writing more than actually writing. i have done a lot of speed-writing, just putting words to the page and blazing through—it feels like a good time to practice other skills. like sitting…thinking…stewing. i think this will help in the long run.
- deux à deux needs to be consolidated. i think there only need to be 4 love interests, max, and i need to solidify exactly what parts of MC are set in stone (personality? gender? age? etc.)*
- this is embarrassing but it’s fine. i need a better backbone when it comes to making stuff. i tend to accept all critique as essential. this is one way to go about creating things, but i don’t think it’s how i want to. i would prefer to make stuff that i just like, exactly how i want to make it. whatever response it garners is just how it is. i need to cultivate that vibe before putting deux à deux out there again.
*i doubt i would ever make MC genderlocked for deux à deux, though. not really my vibe.
so! since i’m not going to be writing deux à deux for i-don’t-know-how-long, i will not be transferring it over to the other site (i forget what it’s called) that is replacing dashingdon. i’m sorry if this is horrible news—i was pretty committed, initially, to writing all of deux à deux within the year once i started. then i graduated college and realized that (unfortunately) money was real and i had literally none of it and no real income. so, for now, real work it is—writing will happen when it’s a good time, but i’m not rushing it.
sorry again for the unfortunate update, but i figured it would be better to be straightforward. thanks again to all of you who reached out, it was really sweet to see all of your messages :,)
hope to see you all again soon. also i prob will lock this thread (or ask the mods to if there’s no way for me to do it) just so there’s no confusion or false starts. if/when deux à deux comes back, i will open a new thread.
— ray
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Closed by request for the hiatus - OP let the moderators know if you’d like it reopened in the future 