Stop right there. BDSM doesn’t mean a sadistic psychopath raping his victim.
BDSM is a totally respectable sexual choice, socially and psichologically. It doesn’t involve rape, nor violence, nor is it disgusting and cruel.
BDSM is Sane, Safe and Consensual. The submissive has the last word on anything, and if they do not want to do something, then it won’t happen.
I don’t know your knowledge in this matter, but I can see it’s pretty low.
Also, as I said in another thread, there aren’t only dominant males and submissive females. The BDSM scene is one of the most open-minded one you can find out there. Gender, sexual orientation, social position, skin color… nothing of it matters at all. A house wife can be a dominatrix, and a CEO of a multinational will prefer to be a slave.
And submissives aren’t victims at all. They chose to be submissive. They enjoy serving their partners and the thrill of being ordered around.
BDSM means trust, open-mindedness, being honest with each other. The dominant trusts that their submissive will tell them exactly what they enjoy and what they don’t, and that, if something goes wrong, they will tell them before it becomes worse. The submissive trusts that their dominant will take care when engaged in their practices, that they will know exactly what to do and how to react to avoid any danger that could arise.
So, it’s not a brutal rape. It’s another way to explore one’s sexuality.