See, that’s what I take issue with. Getting together is not “the finish line.” The finish line is when you’re dead. Or your LI is dead. Or when you break up with your love interest.
But the relationship? That’s the actual meat of the romance. It’s what happens after the first kiss, first bang, first declaration of love that’s the good part. The learning to live together without murdering each other. Tolerating music you would, at one time, rather have stabbed your eardrums out rather than being forced to listen to it. It’s learning to be “we” while not losing “me.” It’s finding that balance as a couple. How to give and take, when to stand your ground and when to just let it go because whatever it is really isn’t that important.
It’s facing problems together and knowing you’ve got someone at your side who has your back, but will still tell you if you’re being an idiot or selfish or flat out wrong and they can do that with you still knowing that they love you. It’s learning to discuss without fighting and adjusting your own behavior a bit when it’s no skin off your nose and it really means something to the one you love. That shit is gold and would be a blast to play in these games.
The buildup? That’s really nothing. But it seems to be the only thing anyone wants to write (and not just in IF, but in books, TV, movies, etc). I guess writing an actual relationship is too hard?
Yeah, as much as I like F, I had to create a woman-child MC to go with him to be able to get through that romance. He’s fun, but it feels like a teen romance. And N is… well, he’s growing on me some, but the all the “suave” stuff is just silly to me. Every time he is supposedly suave, I roll my eyes and feel kind of ill. The rest of the time, he’s okay. Plus, he is fun to torment with inappropriate comments, even in his romance.
Out of the four vampires, M is the one I find most interesting as a person (and more real, because he’s not childish, not mental, and doesn’t act like he thinks he’s in a 1940s harlequin book). And yet, he’s going to be slower than A to get a relationship because, despite all of his “I’m observant, especially where you’re concerned” crap, he’s apparently not observant at all and too dumb to figure things out in a reasonable time frame. And he is still my favorite… thank goodness for fan fiction where he can actually display a brain before the last half of the series.