Umm… wow! okay, well… I’m a bit over whelmed at the response to my question. Honestly, I am sorry if I touched a nerve with anyone. I certainly didn’t mean to… As for forcing anything on my son, that made me smile. I couldn’t even if I wanted to so no worries. He’s a sweet boy with his own mind. I really don’t care much what his diagnoses is except that it helps him get the services and forces the school system to act a little less stupid.
So my idea was more along the lines of social stories, if anyone knows what those are? And yes, it would be like playing a game, like a life simulation game, so that it doesn’t seem like they are being lectured too. Thank you for the suggestion of the ren’py engine. I will look into it.
Oddly, I wonder if perhaps it won’t be more beneficial to have something that teaches people greater understanding for those like my son who lack the ability to understand social cues. We, as a society, wouldn’t expect a deaf individual to hear? or a blind person to see? And yet we expect those that are deaf and blind to social behavior to interpret them with little tolerance for deviation. It is because of that lack of tolerance, that I help my child to “see” and “hear” if possible. But I am also very, very aware that he must be allowed to be himself. I would be crushed if he lost that special something, that makes him so unique.
Before I end this already too long message, let me share a story with you. A few weeks before the end of school, I forgot to give my son his medication, (yes, I do give him medication for ADHD, no, I’m not entirely happy about it, but it’s only when he’s at school and it does help a lot and there are a lot of other reasons, etc… oh, and he’s on board with taking meds, btw) He just finished fourth grade. He has never been a discipline problem, never gotten in trouble before, good student, but today his teacher notices he is off somewhat. My son goes to the boy’s room and notices that there is a spot on the mirror. He decides to be helpful and clean the mirror with the bathroom soap used to wash his hands. When the teacher realizes how long, she asks another boy who tells her that my so is in the bathroom putting soap on the mirror. When my son gets back to the classroom, his teacher said to him, “You know that putting soap on the mirrors isn’t appropriate behavior. You have to go see the principle.” My son, responded respectfully by saying “okay” and doing what he was told. While he was waiting to see the principle however, he started crying, became hysterical and it took the school counselor an hour to calm him down!! He then had nightmares for the next week about the situation and didn’t want to go back to school! Okay, so the reason I have told this story is not because my son’s behavior was in the wrong. Far from it. He was trying to be helpful and his teacher mishandled the situation horribly. But my point is that I wish to spare him going through situations like this in the first place.
Thank you everyone for all your feedback. And thank you if you read this far.