I’m gonna jump in and go double-meta: a post about a post about the community. And some other things I’d like to share about what I do at Choice of Games which I hope will illuminate a bit why the user in the tyranny thread is both a) nothing to be surprised about and b) something we should all be nice about.
About that thread:
I think our forum rules and the reasons behind them are very sound, but it’s fair to say they are not always intuitive to new users, even when they have read them. There may be a better way to organize the rules such that when people do read them, the salient points and background on how things work here is better highlighted for new users. That’s something I’ll be looking at in the next week or so, and that the rest of the team will review when I have some conclusions about how we might re-organize the rules.
We have a rule about not piling-on, especially w/r/t civility, and while there was perhaps a little repetition in the replies on tyranny, I was very glad to see people say things to the OP like “hey, you’re still very welcome to be here.” We are generally a very kind and open community, and it’s encouraging to me to see that. A+ work.
Now I want to double down on saying: Let’s Be Nice to New Users, In Particular Cases Like This One. Here’s why.
The ingenuity, willingness to help, and general forthrightness of the forum is imperative for Choice of Games to function, at least from my perspective. I know and trust that the users here can help when I can’t/it’s not my job to help with someone’s specific need or question.
Many people do not search first, this is a fact of life, more common than ants at a picnic, and it is not confined to this forum.
I will share that my lived reality is answering Google-able questions I receive at the support email every day. I answer these questions as fully as I can and I am happy to. In the past I was surprised that folks think it’s better? easier? I don’t know? to email me than to use Google, but it happens so often I accept that it’s just how things are. I have done troubleshooting for people who don’t know how to use their device, or have a technical issue that has nothing to do with a game. Why? Well, they didn’t Google it, they asked me, so I make a good faith effort to help.
Since August of 2015–my Gmail search function shows–6 different people interested in writing for Choice of Games have emailed me to ask the question “What is a CV?” Our page https://www.choiceofgames.com/looking-for-writers/ says interested writers should start by sending us their CV. If someone’s first impulse after reading that page is to email me to ask what a CV is, rather than taking the chance that a two-second Google search will clear up their confusion, I don’t want to know that about them. This led me to create a separate page, What is a CV?, because I honestly and genuinely felt bad about judging people who ask me this question. I consider myself a pretty non-judgmental person in general and when obstacles to maintaining that quality arise, I want to work around it. Hopefully, now that this page exists, no one in the future will ask.
All of which is to say: Patience. Kindness. Not judging. Be as wise as a serpent and as innocent as a dove is basically the driving philosophy of how I interact with strangers on the internet.
tl/dr: Thank you guys for helping and being as nice as possible. Please be nice. We’re going to review how the rules are laid out so new users better understand them. Try not to be surprised when someone didn’t search the forum for an answer before posting because I encounter people every day who do not use Google. It’s mystifying, but it’s real. When I encounter it, I am nice, and I work to prevent having to encounter it. And thank you mods, who continue to do very excellent work keeping the forum tidy, and explaining the rules when necessary.