Didn’t intend to respond to all of this, since it’s more of the same, but felt it was necessary.
I have repeatedly said it’s my opinion and that it seem to me and to my MC before making statements. How much more would you like from me to make it clear that it’s my opinion, not fact? Should I preface every word with “this is my opinion” in bold caps to as not to perturb those who dislike my opinion? The defensiveness, IN MY OPINION (does that work for you?) comes from the fact that some do not like my opinion. And, honestly, that’s their problem, not mine.
I beg to differ. There is damage each time A flips hot and cold. Damage doesn’t have to be a permanent and irreparable gaping wound. It builds up over time (my opinion, but in nature this claim becomes fact). It’s akin to chipping away at stone. Sure, it’s not noticeable at first, but the repeated chipping takes its toll. The same is true for human interactions (my opinion). Hurt someone enough times and it starts to wear. Is that not the point others were attempting to make with excusing A because of living 900 years and experiencing pain?
Yes, it’s a budding relationship, if you want to call it that. I don’t. It’s a “possible relationship” in the making, the way I see it. And it’s fragile, like a flower that is beginning to grow. What A is doing is essentially vacillating between showing it tender care and spraying it with RoundUp (for those who don’t know, it’s an herbicide that will kill pretty much anything in your yard). So yeah, for some MCs, what A is doing is damaging not only to this budding relationship, but to the MC as well. Again, this is my OPINION.
The thing is, with M, the MC can continually say “no” to the sex. They can keep pushing the desire for “more” with them. With F, I think (I honestly don’t know because F cracks me up and I don’t pay attention to the choices that don’t reflect how my MC responds to them) there are likely choices that can make clear the MC’s feelings on the matter. But with A, the demo choice to which I have referred is the first time I’ve seen (in my OPINION) the MC able to call A out on their behavior.
And that’s fine. Again, and I feel like I have typed this so many times the keys are wearing out, I am simply saying that SOME of us just want more choices in how to respond to A, choices much like the one in the demo! That’s it! That’s all! It might not be choices you would use, and given how many people attack anyone who thinks A isn’t perfect, I suppose they wouldn’t either, but some of us want to play the route and have some choices that fit our MCs and also reflect their feelings on A’s hot/cold crap. So it’s probably prudent for those of us who want to see more of those choices to speak up. If they can take the heat, anyway.
Personality is not a choice. How you treat people is. What you say to them is a choice. Whether you push them away is a choice. So yes, in my opinion, A’s treatment of the MC is a choice and, since they are giving mixed signals, it’s a choice that seems to me and my mc to be emotionally abusive.
I think you and I have also reached the point where further discussion is counterproductive, so yeah… agree to disagree.
I think I’ve said this before, even above, but I’ll add it here: we already got an option that somewhat reflects what I was saying, which was my point. I know it wouldn’t work to tell A to suck it, because they’d just go off and leave the MC alone altogether, but more choices like in the demo, where the MC can tell A to “stop” would work. Especially if, when A plays dumb, the MC gets the chance to outright state the problem (from the text, I couldn’t tell if he was playing dumb or is just too emotionally backward to understand what the MC was saying).