To a certain extend I agree that most gender stuff is from our culture, but I completely disagree that characters can be so quickly rewritten by just changing their pronouns and still making it work. This is because there are certain things in the writing that doesn’t sound right, with a simple pronoun swap (how things are described, minor things about how the character acts, etc).
For example, I’m gay. I’ve played some games where people have just modded in a pronoun swap for either the main character or a potential love interest, but this has never worked for me. I was sooo excited that I would have the chance to finally romance Alistair in DAO, but it was actually one of the most frustrating playthroughs that I had. Even though he was getting the pronouns right, there is something else underlying in everything where I felt that he was always talking to and romancing a woman. It felt wrong to me. On the other hand, my sister (and many women I know) LOVED the Alistair romance while Alistair is my least favorite of all the romances in DAO. Compare this to Fenris from DA2, or Black Magic from Heroes Rise, or Theo/a and Karl/a from Lost Heir. In the latter they have different descriptions whether they are male/female. Also, they speak a bit differently whether they are male/female or whether they are talking to a male/female protagonist. Black Magic, Theo/a, and Karl/a all have the same personalities as their respective gender swap, but that slight difference in description and dialogue goes a long way in making the characters “feel” right.
I don’t want this to be a critique on gender swapping characters and especially not on Sera. I’m really looking forward to buying this game and I think Sera’s writing is amazing and generally that gender swapping characters can work. I’m only saying that to make it “good”, its not as simple as “any character can be any gender with a few minutes of work” (par).
And I completely agree with the final sentiment, be who you are, whether or not society approves.