I’m creating this thread because, as an asexual person, I can’t help but be bothered by something I encounter in almost all HG or CoG games that have romance options. When I first started playing them I would see things like “play as straight, gay, bi or ace” and I got very excited about it because I thought, "I can play as asexual!”, and in my mind that meant being able to romance people as ace, since the romance and love interests are often promoted quite a bit. But sadly, when I would go to play the game, I would find out that the asexual option locks you out from any romance, and I wonder, why add it at all if it’s so redundant? Do the majority of people think that asexuality means we don’t have any romantic interest? Romance is not inherently sexual, and seeing that I have the option just to be denied the romance (and thus, discussions about said characters and romance) if I choose to play as myself is pretty frustrating. I often find myself restarting games to play as bisexual instead, with a fair bit of loss of interest that sometimes ends up with me just… not playing it at all, since the original excitement was tarnished by my feeling sort of… forced to play in a way I don’t like. Especially when the option is there, but I can’t use it without losing out on a part of the game I enjoy.
I understand, of course, that writing an asexual romance might be complicated and difficult if the writer is not asexual, but the community is here to help authors with these sorts of topics — and I think that, were they to ask, they would find that in a lot of cases it’s really not too different. Since often I’m able to pretend it was as though I’d chosen the ace option, especially in games where the sexual nature of the relationship is never even brought up. Which is quite a lot of them really!
Pretty often on social media outside of the forums for some games, such as tumblr, I’ll see questions asked to the author like “how would x li react if mc told them they were ace” and things like that. So I‘ve been wondering, do others in the community feel the same way?