I’m sorry if anything I’ve said has been taken the wrong way and no offense has been intended to anyone. (Still friends with everyone I hope.) Sometimes there are occasions where I get caught off guard by cultural differences and the way things are phrased. There are occasional topics where the way people from my country tend to react, seem quite different to those of others, or perhaps it’s the nature of the internet where everything is text and no one knows each other in person where misunderstandings occur. To preface, nothing said below is intended as an attack on anyone.
I do agree with you @Havenstone that people can comment as they see fit. However, I think I’ve said a few times here that imo you catch more flies with honey rather than vinegar. That is if you really want something to occur, support what you like, encourage rather than harshly criticize and try not to assume the motives of another person in why they have written something in a particular way as it may end up not being as you think. Some authors with genderlocked games are on this forum, ask them nicely what their reason why for doing so rather than assuming. Of course not everyone has to do that, but IMO one of the reasons for the frequently defensive stance on gender locking relates directly to the way it has been portrayed many times in this thread. I can generally take crit, but way back in this thread I did actually get quite insulted about what was being implied and left it for a while.
Example reviews/feedback:
“Your game is sh*t”
Ok, probably going to brush that one off. Doesn’t tell me much. Could relate to anything from the subject matter to the paywall.
“I hated the ending.”
Better. That at least tells me where to start looking. I’d probably respond by asking the person why if they were contactable.
“I hate your writing style.”
Ok, well unless everyone else hates it too, it just might be that my stories aren’t for this particular person.
“I found the writing stilted in chapter x and character y seemed completely unrealistic because of their reactions to z.”
Constructive crit. Even though it’s negative, fantastic! I can work with that. I may or may not agree in the end, but I’ll definitely consider what is being said, and I’m not likely to be offended.
But this is what the crit that is coming from this thread is: Writers who genderlock games are doing so because they are sexist, or were too lazy and don’t want to be inclusive, or thought they could make a quick buck out of an audience at their expense instead of having a genuine interest in writing a certain story etc, etc. And if you like those kind of stories, then you must be the same. The crit is personal. It’s no longer about the writing, it’s a character attack on the author. It’s making judgments on people which may not be correct, it’s hurtful and since often untrue, not constructive, and that’s where the defensiveness can start coming in either from the author themselves or their fans. IMO that tends to run in circles that sooner or later shuts down effective communication. Communication is all. It should be encouraged. It’s the way you change people’s minds about things. You need to discuss things without making it a blame game.
I get why this is an emotional topic. Trust me, I know from first hand experience that sexism is far from dead in this world at both low and high levels. It’s super frustrating to be considered “not as good” or “worthwhile” simply because I have a second X chromasone instead of a Y. But I also think it’s worth thinking hard about whether something is intended to be sexist, or simply that it’s a story someone wants to tell. I don’t self insert into games and I think that’s why I haven’t had a problem with gender locking. As long as there are gender choice and some more female locked games in the works to counter the presence of male locked ones for variety, I’m happy. Personally I would like to see more character driven games. I’d like to be Cleopatra in one story, then see things from Tesla’s POV the next rather than each game starting with a blank slate. But that is just me and I get that if you want to play as yourself, such games are not going to be appealing. Sometimes things are not intended to be exclusionist even though they may seem that way to people highly sensitised and reactive to it (which due to what happens in the world is for good reason.)
Reviews keep being brought up, but it’s not the author who’s writing them! The author can’t stop them from writing stuff like that. If someone wants to get on Google and rant about the female/male locked protagonist I think you’ll find most authors on this site are just as upset as readers. It also worries me that there seems to be a reverse standard happening where complaints about genderlocking in female games are bad, while in male one’s it’s justified. My response to hearing that both female locked games were written by men was “Great! That’s fantastic that males writing for HG’s are comfortable enough to write stories with female protagonists. Great to hear it.” Where as the response to this on this thread seems to have been largely negative. Why? I get that it’d be nice to have female stories written by females too (they’re on their way!) but why should an author stepping out of their comfort zone and writing for the opposite gender be bad? There are female writers for HG, so they are there!
I agree with @Eric_Moser. I find it a huge shame that things that differ from the norm are often being criticized so harshly. Not just gender locking, TNT has gotten hate over preset protagonists, while missing wings has been criticized for being more puzzle like. Highly branching games get hit hard, while long linear ones don’t. There’s nothing I can do about this, and I realise that, it is the audience’s perogative to buy what they like and you either go with the majority rule or expect anything else that gets put out there to potentially be hit in the reviews, but as someone who likes seeing new and different being tried, if works that deviate from the norm keep being hit out at like that, it discourages lateral thinking and authors will stop trying different things, or writing the stories they want to which would have been good if ever heard. And I think that is a shame 