Obviously, this is just my opinion and I can’t speak for everyone.
I have no problem with there being no difference in how different genders are treated in fantasy, unless it has been established that there are strong gender norms in the setting, in which case I find the fact that the MC is exempt from them immersion breaking.
In works that are set in a reality similar or equal to our own, I’d like it if it was brought up later in the story, perhaps leading to a different scene, at most.
What bothers me is when works that are basically historical fiction, and therefore cannot ignore the sexism inherent in such societies, choose to switch around some pronouns and call it a day. I never played far into Choice of Broadsides because I felt like I was playing a game gender locked to male. I’ve seen a few guys on the forum complain about Choice of Romance doing the same thing, albeit replacing a group gender swap with confusing, self-contradiction world building. These are the cases where I think the author should either create separate branches or subplots for each gender, or genderlock the game.
As @MeltingPenguins said, there’s an entire topic dedicated to this (I think this: Why are there so many HGs genderlocked to male? is it), so post there or PM me if you want to continue this discussion. 