The thing I feel that many people donât understand about critique is that itâs a two-way street. In a perfect scenario, the person giving critique would be giving advice on ways that the story could be improved, with the awareness that their advice is subjective to their worldview and personal tastes, and the person receiving would acknowledge it, but may or may not use that advise as they see fit. What the writer does from that point is out of the the critiquerâs hands, for better or for worse.
In a perfect scenario, the person giving does so politely and does not only tear down on the weak points and the receiver acknowledges the advice and thanks them for it regardless of whether or not they decide to take it. And also, critique should be willing. If someone does not want critique, even if it would strongly improve their work, that should be respected and they should be left alone.
Not all types of feedback are critique and not all feedback may be welcome. âThe story feels weak in this part, it could be improved by so-an-soâ is critique. It points out what could be improved and provides one way (out of many) to do so.
âYou suckâ is not critique. âThis character is stupid and I want to kill themâ is not critique. âI donât like this, you should have done (unrelated plot or character point that has no basis in the canon and would take the story in an entirely different way)â is also not critique.
Unfortunately on the internet, all these types of criticism are very common. If you want a story completely different from the writerâs intent, youâre best off writing your own story and leaving the writer alone at that point, not trying to bend their will to please you.
No one wants having demands made to them. Maybe someone doesnât use a piece critique they get because they didnât feel like it or there was no place for it in the story. Thatâs fine (in a general sense). Maybe they do change their story, but in a way thatâs different from what the critique suggested. Maybe that just means that the feedback they got showed that their intent wasnât clear before, or maybe they just wanted to take a different direction entirely. Maybe they felt like the feedback they got was in a rude and/or condescending tone so they chose to not use it because of that. These are all valid responses to critique because, in the end, the writer is the one in charge of the story.
However, another type of feedback that isnât quite critique (in all cases) but is still valuable is that when an idea promoted in the story is pointed out as morally reprehensible in some way. It could range from being simply ignorant of it (which could easily be remedied) to being outright malicious in hate speech (which is less easy to deal with). Despite shockingly popular belief, someone saying that hate speech and violence is bad is not wrong or infringing on anyoneâs freedom of speech.