I think the problem with labels is not that they’re unhelpful, but that sexuality is so complex that there probably just isn’t one that fits you exactly without being too vague to describe you. Really you just have to consider whether the point of the label is to describe you to other people or to describe you to yourself. And those can be different labels. To most people, I’m just simply a gay man. To myself? I’m neutramale, specifically bigender male/agender, with the agender component being flux but not the male component, and I am attracted to masculine-presenting people, regardless of whether they identify as male or not.
