Catholic here. Never been teached to be submissive to anyone. Respectful? Yes. Submissive? Nope.
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I guess it depends on where you live. We don´t have lessons about courtship, but normally people start dating around 14, even earlier is not uncommon. Even teen magazines told you, it is ok to ask a guy out, because he is as afraid, as girls are^^. And that had been 25 years ago. I´m catholic, but that does not automatically mean a lot in germany. Church is not that important, at least in the middle or Nordrhein Westfalen. In small villages in Bavaria it might be different.
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You probably didn’t go to a opus day school that had symbols from the fascist Franco in the damn entrance. I heard that it was forced to change rules and curricular content since i left. To their good side literature and classes give by real teachers most doctors in they specifical field were magnificent. The problem is the nuns tried HARD doctrine people not in jesus. In very sectarian part of old school. For instance i had a old 90 years old saying Vatican 2d council’s was a tool from communism and devil.
I have read the bible and Jesus don’t say anywhere that women has to be submissive and wait man to choose there. Christianity is not the problem is the minds of people twisted it by political motives.
Nuns shouldnt say to a 13 year old that if you say to a guy I want to go out with you you are a satan whore that no real love would love . And the place of a good lady is wait patient a man or your father select you as a candidate. And concert a date.
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Then i think that has more to do with culture, history and society rather than a specific religion. Where i’m from, we have 5 recognized religion and those are Islam, Christian, Catholic, Hindu, Buddha, and Konghuchu (kind of like Confucianism). Atheism is banned and unrecognized. My country is conservative and a LOT of people are still opposing/disgusted by the LGBTQ+ community but that’s just mostly the older generation. But depending on what race you are, what tribe/ethnicity you come from, and what religion you hold, there are certain rules within each community.
For example, if you are living in Aceh, then you are automatically following the customs there based on the Syariah law (as they are the most devout muslims in my country’s region and it’s also a special region) which means men and women aren’t allowed to walk alone just by themselves without the woman’s husband or her older male relatives’ escort and if you are gay/lesbian, you better hope to God that people won’t find out, because if you got “caught” you will be sentenced to public canning/whipping. I think this way of life is so arcane and barbaric, but it has been that way for centuries there and only a handful of people have a problem with that there. With the exception of modern society.
But if you live in the capital city of my country, then most people would have a MUCH much more open mind regarding sexuality and conducts in modern life dating. My best friend just came out to me 2 years ago that he’s gay and have had a crush on my other friend for 3 years. He comes from a very religious catholic family with his grandma still a buddhist so when he came out, of course they freaked and asked if he would like to see a psychiatrist (which made my best friend furious) but later on they accepted him for who he is. And a lot more people (millennials mostly) are starting to be more open and comfortable with their own sexuality in my country and have much more options and opinions regarding dating and marriage.
I know that catholics in Spain are much more hardcore since they were the first people to go on expeditions in order to colonize and turn people into catholics or into christians so yeah, again, it goes back to the history and culture of where you are.
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And even with this, it really goes to extreme groups like OPUS. The rest of Spain is more or less catholic and has no problem against LGTB community or anything at all, really.
Most people I know here is “catholic”, they believe in God and all the stuff, but they don’t follow any of the severe rules, to be honest. Except for very old people who goes to church every week, most of the rest of the country only goes on weddings, baptisms, communions, funerals, etc etc.
And last time I checked, around 80%+ people in Spain said was totally cool with LGTB people, so yay us 
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Yeah, exactly as I said I live in the city with Franco born and has lots of very zealous groups and The school I was part of Opus So it is not an accurate showing of how Spanish educational system is. Thankfully my society as @Meira_Litch is very progressive or is becoming that. but sometimes when I walking in my city and say some graffiti insylting gays or people argue with gays kissing on a park I hate my city.
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