Are you talking about the chick that’s associated with the hacker storyline/background or do you mean Jillian the con artist ?
It may have sounded like a simple request to you but, I can see how it came across a demand, when you started the sentence with "I want" as if you were at a fast food place and he was taking your order. True there’s nothing wrong with asking for racial diversity, but when pointing something out or asking about something, you should try to be considerate of how you phrase it so you don’t come across as ungrateful or entitled.
JimD has already given us 14-soon to be 15 RO’s with the addition of Rosie. He can’t please everyone and there’s already, a lot of romantic interactions and possibly storylines that he has to write for the existing RO’s. Asking for another RO doesn’t seem like good timing and would probably set him back even more in the development of this game.
Yes their deaths has always been like that since the beginning, you really do have to try different playstyles in order to see all the content that’s in this game. Also it’s worse if you have the nephew sit there and watch you kill them.