The thing that I found a bit strange and also a bit unsettling to be honest was that, as far as I could tell, many of the people here advocating for keeping the heir RO a genderlocked male were pan/bi/straight woman or pan/bi/straight men who often did so on the grounds that basically it would be good for those only into women to experience being forced in-story to marry someone of a gender that they’re not attracted to, apparently because that’s considered to be a good way to simulate being forced to marry someone you’re not attracted to. Firstly, the logic here doesn’t stand up to closer scrutiny. If you have to be forced in-story to marry someone of a gender that you’re not attracted to in order to imagine being made to marry someone that you’re not attracted to, then by that logic, straight women and gay men should then have their MCs be forced to marry a princess.
And secondly what you’re then doing is in actual practice advocating that other readers/players should experience a certain kind situation that you really won’t experience, because it “will be good for them” in one way or another. This seems really problematic to me, if it became a trend for people here to agitate for WIPs to include something that is problematic to others here but not to themselves, precisely because it would be a good way to create more story-based angst for those people, it would certainly make more people here feel unwelcome. I also think that your focus should be more about what you yourself want to see and experience rather than what you think would be good for other people to see and experience, especially when those people loudly and clearly say that they don’t want to experience and see what you want them to see and experience. If you insist on knowing what’s best for them, you are basically overstepping their boundaries and you also come across as insensitive and disrespespectful. This would be the same if the situation in question was an arranged marriage to a genderlocked male character, a genderlocked female character, a character genderlocked as the same or opposite gender of the MC or any other kind of situation that someone are totally ok with and someone are not ok with at all. Of course in some situations, things being changed means you losing out on certain options. But this is clearly not the case here, except for any straight men or lesbians who would want the angst of always having the MC’s parents try to force them in-story to an arranged marriage to a man.
So, in short, a lot of the arguments for why you should have a genderlocked male heir RO, have seemed quite strange and illogical. If you’re a lesbian or straight male who wanted a gender-locked male heir RO, because you wanted that extra angst, fair enough, I guess, although I think most straight men and lesbians prefer the heir RO being gender selectable. But arguing that the heir RO should be gender-locked to male because it would be more angsty to some people who don’t include you, is not a good argument at all. Note: when I’m writing “you” here, I’m not talking about you specifically, rather I’m using it in a more general way. Anyway, that’s my main issues with a lot of the arguments that came up for having a Heir RO genderlocked to male.
I also have to admit that I don’t really understand this[quote=“saggittarius, post:331, topic:122504”]
Straight women on the other hand still got the shorter end of the stick when it came to arranged marriage.
[/quote] Did you mean to say that the lesbians also got the short end of the stick when it came to arranged marriage when the Heir RO was still genderlocked to male? Or did you actually mean that straight women got the short end of the stick when it came to arranged marriage in this WIP? Because, if it’s the last, I can’t see how that is the case at all.