I had a bit of trouble determining a title. Though formed as a question, I mean it to a degree as rhetoric. Yet, I still wish to challenge the modern interpretation of these words. I would begin by saying that in my mind love, sex and romance are separate abstracts. That is to say, one can exist independently with or without the others. For example, I most often define my sexuality as heterosexual, I am attracted to women. However, I find this lacking in nuance. While true there is a physical attraction to women, I lack any drive to form long term monogamous bonds. Nor do I feel strong emotionally to the rituals we attach around words like love. I define this part of my as aromantic. I am unsure if it is because of, as a result of or completely unrelated to this but I also have a divorce in my mind on the ideas of sex and love. This would be one of the reason I started this thread. My own understanding and definition of love appears to be skewed relative to fiction. That in fiction, these two ideas must be connected. I would theorize this is linked to my aromantic nature. How does one describe something intrinsic? I have observed in others, a drive to couple. Not just partner but couple. In the long term. For those of you saying 'Duh." I lack that drive. The same way I would say I lack the drive to have sex with men. So, what does this have to do with anything? Part of me simply wanted recognition for this slightly unorthodox perception and the rest of me? I wanted to inform. To ask and allow others to learn and grow. I don’t ask for your approval but your consideration and opinion. It need not be more then simple thought. This is all I ask.
Now, so there is no misunderstandings, I have these as personal view points. It’s just that in fiction, there is always this intrinsic perception that love, sex and romance are a package deal.