Hey Leigh! Long post ahead, but I thought it was important to talk to you about.
I’ve been following WW updates for… close to 5 years now? And throughout it all, I’ve so greatly enjoyed the books and universe, so thank you for that! It’s always been exciting to go through the games again, especially after learning more from these threads.
Regarding the last major update however, which I have to disclose I have not personally gone through yet, a few non-binary friends of mine were discussing the new implementation of non-binary genders in WW, and some of them felt upset at the way things were handled. In particular, they were upset at the way it felt like gender was heavily associated with biological sex when first selecting which gender they presented as. To quote:
‘I like the idea of Ishim and that as a result, someone’s gender identity is mainly because of what feels right
and I specifically mean feels right
because if I read “I decided I was female” I will also rage
it’s um…
it’s complicated?
but it’s just. “Well, people address me as this, and it doesn’t feel right.”
and then your Angel guardian can just be like “That’s okay! Ishim don’t have a gender, and sometimes when you become [race here], gender roles get imposed on you.”
or something’
It was as though they/the MC would only be trans due to “remembering” their previous sex/their body remembering it, as if it were that all along they were cis and just in this life were born into the wrong body/sex. Additionally, if they were to choose to be non-binary, it was only because they/their body remembered being a spirit, which felt wrong.
That the option to change your mind from being non-binary back to cis again being “No, on second thought, I think I really do feel like I am what my body is,” and the trans option being “Yes! I’ve always felt as if I was a girl/boy, despite my body,” just further exacerbated the focus on the body, which was frustrating.
They (as do I, but I am not non-binary, so I relay this for them) very much did appreciate and felt glad that you took the time to code in all of this (trans, non-binary, genderfluid options alike) and include more than just the binary. However, the way the story addressed it left them a little more defeated as the body is not necessarily the basis for gender. They suggested that a better way to try to choose for gender would be like how Eagle’s Heir presented it, with gender and presentation and identity being distinct elements:
“Basically you choose your presentation at the beginning (whether you present more masculine or feminine) and then there’s a childhood flashback where you establish your assigned-at-birth gender and talk to your grandmother about your gender identity, which you can then identify as male/female/not specifically one or the other
it’s nice because it means you can establish yourself/your character as specifically trans in a setting-appropriate way without just picking “trans” from a set list of gender identities, and also because it separates your presentation from your identity
and also it’s very much about feelings and societal perception and not about your body or genitals”
So, I wanted to ask you about your own thoughts on this, and if there’s any possibility of changing the way it’s handled, as I’ve read and understand that gender is really important to you as you have people close to you whose lives have heavily dealt with this topic too. I would love to be able to see changes myself, but more than that, having those close to me (and other non-binary persons) feel comfortable playing WW again is heavily important. WW is an amazing game and universe after all, and there’s a reason why we even discussed this in the first place, as we all have played the games a lot. And even though I do know and realize just how much effort it took on your own part to do something so wonderfully inclusive as to rewrite countless scenes and code to allow for more gender options, the way people first step into gender and identity in WW could be bettered and even more inclusive. Thank you for all your time in this, but please let me know if it’s possible to change this and welcome more people into WW!