I feel enlightened.
I, for some unknown reason, have never actually considered reading an advice book about anything. I guess if I were to try to actually pinpoint why, it was probably some underlying belief that they couldn’t possibly convey experiences intrinsic to me or that they were inherently a gimmick.
But a short while ago, I read one about story writing and how to outline. And now…I have gone on to purchase and read seven more ranging from character development to an advice/analysis of story premise.
Seriously, not only has it made me realize how shallow my ideas were (and how they were really situations and not stories at all), I feel like they have lead me to start to develop a story that I want to write and couldn’t before. One with fully realized character arcs, story growth, and all the things I wanted to make into something and fit somewhere that I couldn’t pin down from my thoughts to words.
I sound like a sales person, but I am so happy I got over whatever was holding me back from this before because I have gained so much perspective. There’s nothing wrong with hearing advice outside of friends and family, especially by those established in said area of expertise, and now I feel like there’s so much more structure and I have some basic building blocks. I feel like I can finally write what I want to because I’ve been given the tools. The best example I can give is - You can be naturally good at art, and constant practice by yourself will certainly help you improve. But if you get taught the basic fundamentals, like anatomy and perspective, you can improve so much more and so much faster. And it’s like when you have that painting in your head you want to put it on canvas but have lacked the skills to convey that to material, but now…I finally am able to do it. I certainly have a ways to go and am by no means an expert just because I’ve read a few books, I just feel like my future potential has been expanded exponentially.
Ahhhh, I guess I’m just in a happy raving mood about this and had to go on about it to someone. But seriously, this is the best I’v felt about something I love (writing) in a long time.
@princecatling I completely relate.
I wish you all the best! As cliche as this advice is - the best piece of wisdom I can offer, tried and true, is to be yourself and be confident in that. If he is someone worth pursuing, he will accept and appreciate you for who you are. I know this seems like literally the most cookie cutter advice and doesn’t seem very helpful, but just remember - Someone in a relationship should like and respect you just as much as you do them, so there is no need to worry about doing something ‘wrong’ or being scared to be honestly you. This sounds a lot easier in theory than practice of course, and is kind of scary and difficult when this is all new, but it’s something I have personally found immensely helpful to keep in your mind when your nerves start interfering. And have fun!