Ummm, highly disagree, as literally all studies that I’ve read dispute that. If you’ve got studies that prove me wrong, you should post them in the Sociopathy Thread.
All that being said…I’m here to talk about me, just like everyone else, lol. I’ve been feeling really complex, lately. Last night, I had to publicly call out my grandmother on facebook, because she has never once tried to be a part of my life – ever. I turn 22 on April 24th, but she thinks now is the time to tell me that I shouldn’t use “effing” as an adjective nor have opinions on politics that differ from hers (last night she posted a meme that the 2nd Amendment has done more for women’s equality than the ENTIRETY of the feminist movement, so…like…even more than voting equality…).
Basically, it’s like she’s trying to make up for lost years not by, you know, being a family member, but by trying to tell me to be a “good Christian girl” and other such things. But I’m not kidding when I say I went EIGHT YEARS without hearing from her, like, ever, except this one time when I got a job at 18 and she tried to guilt me into sending her money “my daughter died a year ago, Valerie! She’s been supporting me for the last 10 years!”
And I flat out told her that’s what happens when she decides she only loves her daughters’ kids rather than her sons’. My grandmother, for the first 10 years of my life, lived less than 3 minutes from the two different houses I lived in during that time span. The first house, I have no recollection of her ever visiting, and I think she visited the second house a grand total of 4 times in the 6 years I lived there. I specifically remember going to her house for a surprise visit two or three times as a kid and watching her hide behind a couch and telling her favorite daughter (the one who’s dead now, may she rest in peace) and grandkids not to answer the door.
So when this happens: (spoilers for coarse language)
I’m just like whatever. I’m used to her trying this BS. She didn’t respond, as she never does…Until yesterday evening, 30 March. On another comment in the thread, about stuff almost completely unrelated, she decided to pull some sarcastic BS out of her rear-end and tell me –
So I finally broke down and tore her a new rearend. I have tried private messaging this woman about how she speaks to me, but she ignores it. She has never once responded to a text from me, and she ignores my calls. I am not a disrespectful person – even as she’s being nasty with me, I, time and again, go out of my way to use extremely polite language. I have the right to disagree with her, however, which she just doesn’t seem to understand. She allows my cousins to get away with murder – my one cousin literally got arrested for driving while on synthetic pot that she got whilst living with my grandmother, completely totaling her car and causing over $15k of damage to a government building in their state, but I digress.
So…perhaps what I need is to feel like I didn’t do a bad thing by calling my grandmother out publicly. I try not to be that kind of person. I really do, yet here I am, posting to you guys because I feel guilty and hurt, etc. etc.