More of the second than the first one, but still a mix of both. They are not that common en masse on the battlefield as men, but some still find their spot there. One of the two women warriors mentioned in the current version of the game are a mercenary from a small province that stood in rebellion against the realm for longer than any other, and so it has a strong culture of letting every hand available hold a sword, because that is the only way they could resist. The other is a member of a religious group that only takes women, the same way that another one only takes men.
The main religion itself is quite egalitarian, albeit in a weird way. Priests and Priestess share the same amount of power and are paired to hold their temples, but the official heads of religion are the Genderless(think of it in a context where hermaphrodites are considered holy by the main religious institution.)
Also, within certain conditions, each province can decide on their own how they approach heritages and marriage laws, as the player learns when it marries someone.
I want both, but one step at a time. The first chapter can certainly end with the player in a position where he or she can make a claim for the title of King in the West, if that is their ambition.
Currently I'm focusing only on the WP. The idea behind it was to have a contained chunk of land where I wouldn't lose myself with too many branches and possibilities, so it would be doable in a decent amount of time.