@KageTehVamp: What you just said, about it feeling “awkward” to be pursued by the Queen in the same way as the King, because that doesn’t distinguish masculine/feminine ways of “handling things”… that feeling of having gender assumptions turned upside down is part of what Adam and Heather were aiming for in AotC. If they had written out separate, sex-specific personalities for Agustin/Agustina, I’m guessing they would have kept the current aggressive approach for the Queen and made the King play hard-to-get, requiring active wooing on your part if you wanted to seduce him!
Most Western entertainment still feeds us the idea that sexually, men pursue the partners they desire while women either wait to be pursued or use indirect, subtle means of seduction. It’s linked with related ideas like “men desire/need sex more than women,” and “women who have lots of sex should feel shame; men who have lots of sex should feel proud.” And real-world gender roles and power frameworks are built on those ideas.
But those ideas aren’t universal across human societies, let alone fundamental truths that come with our chromosomes. I’ve worked for years in a country (Afghanistan) where the assumption that “women desire sex more than men” is a cornerstone of gender relations (and has of course led to its own set of famously screwed-up power frameworks). There’s no reason why a fantasy story set in a different world – even one that in many ways mirrors medieval Iberia in our own – should play by current Western ideas of what masculinity and femininity mean.
Even if you don’t agree with me that our Western gender ideas need flipping on their head because they justify unjust privilege and power for straight men, you might see if you can enjoy that “awkward” feeling – to my mind, the best fantasy and sci fi creates worlds that weird us out a little, because they offer an alternative to our ingrained ideas of what it is to be male, female, heroic, human, etc.