Almost universally agreed that “Daleynn is awful”, is taking it too far, I think, if you mean among all the people who have tried TSSW(if you meant only in this thread, sorry for misunderstanding). Just because there’s a number of people in this thread who have expressed their dissatisfaction with Daelynn, this doesn’t have to mean that the majority of the people who have tried TSSW also dislike that character, not even that the majority of the people who have posted in this thread do so, after all, even in this thread, the majority of the comments haven’t even mentioned Daelynn, as far as I can recall. Since this is a thread specifically about ROs people don’t like, naturally the vast majority of the posts will be about excactly that, but it doesn’t really tell us much about all the people who actually like or even the people who are indifferent to a certain character. There’s just not enough data , so to speak, for us to get from this thread to be even close to know whether that is the case and reach any solid conclusions.
I for one, don’t dislike Daelynn as a character or RO. I won’t deny that I like female ROs who come on strong, who are flirty and I liked that about Daelynn. I did think that she became less interesting after the actual start of the relationship, with the writer, as far as I could tell, focusing more on describing how lovey-dovey your character and her become than the particular dynamic that made her interesting to me in the first place. I can certainly see and understand how some of the people who try TSSW may respond negatively to her as a character, but I don’t think it’s right to assume that the majority of people necessarily feel that way about the character.
It’s also important to keep in my that out of the ROs, it’s only Straasa and Eledwen who can’t be considered to be disrespecting your characters boundaries one way or another, depending on how you define what disrespecting a boundary means. Morkai is often disrespectful of your character and on occasion, touches your character without permission. The “secret” RO certainly oversteps your boundaries in a much more serious manner than Daelynn ever did and there’s also a character who migh turn into a RO in the third book who kidnaps and tries to sexually assault your character in book 1. So in that context, I’d say Daelynn doesn’t come off as particularly bad, and she doesn’t seem as condescending as Morkai, for instance. You could of course say that the fact that there’s so many ROs in TSSW with certain aspects that people find problematic points to aspects that are problematic at that series in general, but that’s another bigger discussion and I’m certainly wary of scapegoating that series in general, as opposed to a particular character in that series, because that could both quickly turn ugly and derail this thread.
I’m not trying to invalidate the criticisms of Daelynn, if people have concerns about a RO or other NPCS, it’s always important to bring those things forward and to listen to those concerns. But there’s no way we can know how large a proportion of the people who have tried a COG or HG that share those concerns and criticisms. Yes, there’s a few ROs, like Jun/ko and the “secret” RO in TSSW, who seem to have a large hatedom. But even with those it’s not that easy to pinpoint how many of the people who have tried those particular HGs or COGs who actively dislike those particular ROs. And Daleynn just doesn’t seem to have that level of hatedom, so it’s even more hard to tell if there are a large proportion of the people who have tried those particular HGs who actively dislikes her as a RO and as a character in general.