I understand that it isn’t the most acceptable thing in the world to be immediately shackled with and that many people feel that a certain gender (not necessarily their own) best identifies and represents their outlook and view in the story.
However, if the role was justified, would people be more accepting of it?
To get into details, the story I’m working on features a Dwarf Princess who due to player determined consequences must (one way or another) become King of her people, role normally held solely by Dwarf men. All the while she is fighting the deep seated prejudices of her people in an otherwise male dominated system, while trying to turn her backwards minded people towards a better future, as outside threats from within and without threaten to wipe her people out. That much of the struggle the heroine will face is largely political, and specific to her being a woman is central to the plot. If it were a man, it wouldn’t present the same kind of struggle or hit the same key notes.
Edit: Also there is a bit of added humor with her having to periodically shave her beard off, played for laughs and milked for a great deal of humor once her companions and good friends catch on.