With me the opposite happens. If my character is male, he isn't flirty. If it is female? The corporeal representation of being flirty. Somehow, it is more liberating playing as a woman in games, maybe because role-playing becomes more easy, I have no idea why.
Come on man, don't ruin my romance. Still, Cora Harper is my default romance choice.
Dammit, now I am feeling like an weirdo. A teenager? Ok, in my version of the canon she is 23. Lets just leave it at that. Please
This is the point. It does seem to work (even the promise of violence). The problem is that is works "too well", hence them giving you the truth and, probably after that, a bunch of made up stuff. At least that is how I imagine it. I guess that if I had any experience or dealing with it my take on it would probably be different.