I read a post by @FairyGodfeather and it really resonated with me because I overthink things way too much and it was topic I’ve been ruminating on these last few days.
In order to like someone romantically do they have to conform to the gender you prefer in order to realise that love (in-game)? Are people okay with having a non-physical relationship (in-game)?
In reality you have to embrace people for who they are and you cannot change them. Then again, I fully respect the right of people to be able to choose RO gender because COG is a form of entertainment—a way to escape reality—and for most people gender attraction isn’t open.
With my ROs I was tossing up between choosing the gender of each character as you go or the standard ‘which gender are you attracted to’. But then I hit a block when I realised some of the non-romance characters had great chemistry with the PC but were coded as gender locked. Where I’m currently at is having a mix of ROs where you choose gender and the occasional where you can’t. If you like them enough you can have a platonic relationship or just go for it. If they match your preference then you’re lucky.
I thought the main idea behind having non-gender-locked ROs was so that people could appreciate the characters for who they were without having to worry about gender preferences and attraction. But then I looked around the forums and saw some people disliked the lack of innately gay or bi RO.
I hope I’m not being disrespectful but I do want to understand what others feel. I think I’m lacking perspective and understanding because gender isn’t important in relationships for me. Please educate this idiot.
So after a massive wall of text (thanks if you’re still reading) my main questions are;
Can you see yourself being interested in a gender-locked character that doesn’t match your gender preference if there are RO that conform to it? Do gender locked ROs annoy you? Are the best RO determined by personality, gender or a combination of gender and personality?